Women Empowerment, GST and what not :)

Well, such a huge buzz on everything lately... to start with, My sincere condolences to a nation who lost it's Father... One whom i look up to and whose mentality i admire. 

“I am often accused of interfering in the private lives of citizens. Yes, if I did not, had I not done that, we wouldn't be here today. And I say without the slightest remorse, that we wouldn't be here, we would not have made economic progress, if we had not intervened on very personal matters – who your neighbour is, how you live, the noise you make, how you spit, or what language you use. We decide what is right. Never mind what the people think.” 

LKY

My heart goes out to those who lost their loved ones on board Lufthansa airlines and all these airline mishaps should stop....It seems like some mass killing only differently. Anyways, all that and then we have our very own GST issues... I do not have much to say because i think this gives us all a chance to study and research on what this GST is all about and knowing your rights is very very essential. Reading and searching opens up your minds to issues that are bigger and underlying this new implementation. 

All i can say is, life must go on....as with everything that we have crossed paths with... Maths and Science in English or Malay....? Debate debate debate... MAS...where did MH370 go? Debate debate debate...theories theories...not found? MIA.... one year gone and we have all moved on... Oil Price increase/decrease....debate debate debate....and move on... So even now, all we need to do is move on and learn the art of survival... Just do what you need to do to survive. Save more, spend on important things and live within your means. Do anything and everything to upgrade yourselves to a place in life where no governmental decisions will affect you or your loved ones. Live simple, be humble.

Next is the video that went viral... MyChoice by Vogue and Deepika Padukone.... I loved the aesthetic value of the video... It was beautiful to look at but i have been waiting for an ambush by fellow netizens and it has happened... For every action, there would be an equal and opposite reaction. More so for this video of "MyChoice". I have always advocated women's rights and how they should be allowed to be themselves and they should not be subjected to any ridicule. In other words, a woman should be allowed as much freedom to be herself and embrace her individuality. But i was also very quick to understand that men and women are never equal... that is just the way God created this beautiful planet we live on. We need balance and hence men and women, Yin and Yang.

Two very different beings but the same species, and the basic rights to living a decent and happy life should be gender discrimination free. The problem with the video is that, the one advocating or giving voice is someone who is well educated and to whom many of the basic rights can be bought with the money and the influence that they have. The one advocating has everything she needs and is perfect. Just having a few commoners face in the video doesn't really show that we understand the rights that 80% of the women are seeking for. We didn't ask to sleep with other men or to be naked.. We definitely didn't ask for the rights to have pre-maritial sex .. It is an individual choice i must say and things like that happen but i guess what we are asking for or saying is that no one should be judged, male or female alike. It is their choice. We are in no position to comment let alone call names. Virginity is subjected to male and female. 

Seriously, with all the basic rights that hundreds of millions of women in India and on the streets of some village don't have, such as the rights to education, the rights to choose their education path, the right to choose their marriage partner (let alone sleep with another men), rights to work or be employed..... This video should have not spoken about the rights to come home whenever you want when you are married....and the right to commit adultery? It is not only insane but nonsensical and insulting to some women.

That video definitely has a strong message but it should have been presented in a way that it didn't have to suppress the men or undermine them. Just like we say we have a choice, we should never forget that men have their choices too. Choices are independent of gender. This is my understanding and that video can be comprehended any other way. We should stop pitting women against men in this fight for some basic rights. We are all wise and we all should take responsibility of the choices we make. That is proper. When we talk about freedom and liberty to all our thoughts and actions, we should always remember to be bound by our values and culture. 

Wo/MEN we should all embrace ourselves and be who we want to be. Being dark skinned or fair, a size zero or size fifteen... or men who wear your shabby pants out to the airport/mall/practically everywhere.....guys who listen to their mom....no one should be judged. It is counterproductive if no one sits and listens to one another and their choices. You have a choice to take it or leave it....so why fret. It all starts with listening and understanding. Liberty and freedom of expression and freedom of choice is equal for everyone and is independent of gender. Let us respect each others choices and find ways to be happy, healthy and wealthy!!

The video that stirred much buzz : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtPv7IEhWRA

The outcome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnBdxu0qABI

Enjoy and have a great weekend!!

Girl Talk

I was waiting for Esha at Starbucks while reading "Lullabies" by Lang L….. having hot chocolate with whipped cream…..So,when she finally enters….."i’ll never be that desperate!"….I check myself hastily for signs of depravity. She notices my discomfort and clears the air…..she was only referring to the story of women buying men for sex……."buying men for sex sounds so revolting!"…. "Just thinking about it gives me the creeps"….she mutters.

It might shock her sentiments,but the fact is that men have been buying sex for centuries. So,what’s wrong with desperate housewives having a little fun on the side? Yet,the feminist in me flares up…."just because men have been doing it for ages doesn't mean it is a good example to follow….Buying sex is demeaning because it means you have given up on relationships…..and on life…." Esha doesn't take too kindly either to the idea that some people might not want to be saddled with the excess baggage that comes with every relationships……" you can’t only hope for all the good things in a relationship,you have to take the rough with the smooth…..and don’t tell me women who hire gigolos don’t suffer from guilt pangs?" Then she asked me….."So,where will sex figure in your relationship…….?"

I say…"I won’t get into a relationship purely to enjoy mindless sex…..,i remark candidly….Sex is important,if you’re married to the person you love……I’m not denying that. But relationship means much more than a casual romp in the hay. It means sharing little things and being faithful. Its about respecting each other’s needs and respecting each other’s space. It means so many things in so many numerous ways…..that i’m hard pressed for words.

Marriages these days have become a stage show and a competition of who outdid who and ..Marriages have also become too complicated. People want to wake up and have the marriage at 4am in the morning (no pun intended) just because it is the most auspicious time for the Hindus. I mean like, has it even occurred to you that the union's auspicious time starts when the couple understands, accepts and loves each other...? God is around all the time and all time is a good time if you attract good thoughts....

Then Esha distracted my thoughts and asked me again….give me quick answers for my questions okay?? I said okay….. 

Love is; Great while it last…… 

I lust for; A well cooked grill……. 

Sex can be; Over-rated….. 

When a woman loves a man; She can really behave stupidly………. 

I get turned on by; Any man’s perfume that can send my senses reeling and oh he has to be smart……… 

Holding hands; Can never go out of fashion…….. 

A romantic evening; Would be just being together,doing fun things like watching a movie…..having dinner and then later watching football…..ehehe ehem ehem after that… 

A man’s sex appeal; His intelligence….It’s long -lasting at least……

Phew….I don't know what she asked me all that for…..but after that it was about time we went shopping…..There’s nothing like shopping to lift a girl’s spirit after a tough day anywhere…..Well then…….there are a billion ideas….so many things i would love to write but….you guys just wait okay……I repeat the Robert frost line……"Miles to go before i sleep…… " Okay don't crack up and say i’m so dramatic…….Love ya all……..                                      

Happy New Year

So, i got into the New Year with a realization that this truly is going to be a "New Year"...I am not a person who actually makes resolutions. I make or do something if i can actually pull it off and stick to it. So, resolutions is a strict no no for me. I am not going to tell the world that:

1. I want to lose 10kgs this year.
2. I am going to finish that masters of mine.
3. I am going to own the latest phone, gadget and what not.....

etc..............

On my end, New Year, celebrations and parties are always simple...and with the familia. But i definitely knew what was in store for me this year. I was moving again, back to KL...a new job and a journey towards the completion of my masters. I am moving out of my comfort zone. I know for a fact that if you want to reach the top, if you want to live your greatest life, you have to move out of your comfort zone and face your fears...

I am leaving behind my darling friends and colleagues...I just know that i have been blessed to have these ladies in my life and because of them working has been fun. Love you ladies so much and from the bottom of my heart. I have had the best 2 years of my life in JB and am going to KL a new person. I am leaving beautiful people behind and my most favourite temple...but i know this is what He wants and i trust Him. I believe there is good behind this move.

I keep moving, i keep learning....i am not stagnant and i am glad...However, my year looks pretty apparent. I am going to be working on my thesis everyday after work...I have to subject myself to that in order to complete my thesis on time. I have embraced the change and i am mentally prepared. These much i know and i anticipate but of course life offers us much more than just that. It is always full of surprises and i am also ready for it. Bring it on!!!

I know i am stepping into the new year with the same if not more love for my friends and family...Love is something that i am not willing to let go. I believe anything that you do with love, gives you a 100% satisfaction. It is with this love in my heart that i have earned some of the best friendships and success. 

I liked that i did not have to pretend. I liked that i was being true to myself and that is all that matters. I am carrying this same quality with me to the grave. So this year is just going to be the same....pretty much, because i am still the same. But what is in store for me is a little different. Different is good.

I would like to wish all my friends and family a blessed New Year...filled with love, passion for what you do and confidence in your heart. May you be a blessing to your family and your friends. May this year bless you with abundance.

P/S: It may not exactly be a happy new year for the flood victims but i wish you the best. I have certainly done my part and will continue to contribute. I urge all friends to do the same. Anything small, anything within your budget, and anything significant will do. Let us extend a hand and you know that act is noble. That is all that matters. Love you all.

Cheers