I was waiting for Esha at Starbucks while reading "Lullabies" by Lang L….. having hot chocolate with whipped cream…..So,when she finally enters….."i’ll never be that desperate!"….I check myself hastily for signs of depravity. She notices my discomfort and clears the air…..she was only referring to the story of women buying men for sex……."buying men for sex sounds so revolting!"…. "Just thinking about it gives me the creeps"….she mutters.
It might shock her sentiments,but the fact is that men have been buying sex for centuries. So,what’s wrong with desperate housewives having a little fun on the side? Yet,the feminist in me flares up…."just because men have been doing it for ages doesn't mean it is a good example to follow….Buying sex is demeaning because it means you have given up on relationships…..and on life…." Esha doesn't take too kindly either to the idea that some people might not want to be saddled with the excess baggage that comes with every relationships……" you can’t only hope for all the good things in a relationship,you have to take the rough with the smooth…..and don’t tell me women who hire gigolos don’t suffer from guilt pangs?" Then she asked me….."So,where will sex figure in your relationship…….?"
I say…"I won’t get into a relationship purely to enjoy mindless sex…..,i remark candidly….Sex is important,if you’re married to the person you love……I’m not denying that. But relationship means much more than a casual romp in the hay. It means sharing little things and being faithful. Its about respecting each other’s needs and respecting each other’s space. It means so many things in so many numerous ways…..that i’m hard pressed for words.
Marriages these days have become a stage show and a competition of who outdid who and ..Marriages have also become too complicated. People want to wake up and have the marriage at 4am in the morning (no pun intended) just because it is the most auspicious time for the Hindus. I mean like, has it even occurred to you that the union's auspicious time starts when the couple understands, accepts and loves each other...? God is around all the time and all time is a good time if you attract good thoughts....
Then Esha distracted my thoughts and asked me again….give me quick answers for my questions okay?? I said okay…..
Love is; Great while it last……
I lust for; A well cooked grill…….
Sex can be; Over-rated…..
When a woman loves a man; She can really behave stupidly……….
I get turned on by; Any man’s perfume that can send my senses reeling and oh he has to be smart………
Holding hands; Can never go out of fashion……..
A romantic evening; Would be just being together,doing fun things like watching a movie…..having dinner and then later watching football…..ehehe ehem ehem after that…
A man’s sex appeal; His intelligence….It’s long -lasting at least……
Phew….I don't know what she asked me all that for…..but after that it was about time we went shopping…..There’s nothing like shopping to lift a girl’s spirit after a tough day anywhere…..Well then…….there are a billion ideas….so many things i would love to write but….you guys just wait okay……I repeat the Robert frost line……"Miles to go before i sleep…… " Okay don't crack up and say i’m so dramatic…….Love ya all……..
