I'm a good listener and a good observer. Standing in line to order food/drinks and or even when in the lift. For a lecturer, observation is a superpower. You can always establish patterns and draw conclusions based on a students behaviour and learning style. So, i heard a few students in the lift this morning talking in English, (why specify the language ? Let me explain, if you're an Indian and there are other people in the lift, you would use your mother tongue to speak because you don't want them to understand...but if you speak in a global language, you want to be heard) looking extremely confident and expressing themselves to some other boys...My office is at the 20th floor and so i had a long way up listening to their non-stop jabber so very early in the morning when the lift stops at practically every floor.. I am not going to explain what they spoke of...but i will let my writing drive your imagination to what they were prating about.
Sex is what you make of it. It can be love and pleasure or aggression and power play or barter and business……or just a pulsating source of entertainment. In an era where success is the only language understood, the credentials between class and crass seem steadily dwindling……Since I’m a Hindu, I can safely say that we Hindu’s have always taken pride in having been mature about sex and its connotations, right from the days of the Kamasutra. Take for example, temples in India, such as the Meenakshi temple in Madurai; joyfully celebrates the union of Meenakshi and her consort Sundareshwara.
Vatsyayana's classic work “Kamasutra” (Aphorisms of love) written somewhere between the 1st and 6th centuries includes the three pillars of the Hindu religion “Dharma,” “Artha” and “Kama” representing religious duty, worldly welfare and sensual aspects of life respectively. The main theme here appears to be the expression of Indian attitude toward sex as a central and natural component of Indian psyche and life. But what happened along the way is only sex remains when one discusses 'Kamasutra'... the non sexual aspect of Kamasutra got lost in translation and interpretation.
The definition of sexuality has been evolving along with our understanding of it. Sexuality is experienced and expressed in thoughts, fantasies, desires, beliefs, attitudes, values, behaviors, practices, roles and relationships.Yet the mindset of the ‘educated’ lot demands the Original Sin of temptation be kept wrapped in the confines of one’s mind. The Wheel though, is constantly turning and by a quirk of time, temptation and human desires have snapped out of the social cages and are smeared……..
Picture if you will, renowned sage Vishwamitra at his meditative best. In walks Menaka who uses all her oomph to temp Vishwamitra and break his concentration….and Voila!! She succeeds. Seduction is the game these days………Everyone seems to have a fixation for seducing damsels. Skin showing has stretched across the globe and being bold has become the mantra of girls everywhere. I’m not saying there is anything wrong in skin showing; as long as girls have their own notions, on where to draw the line. Being bold, is not coming out and dressing up freely or voicing out your opinion without considering where you're at and who you're speaking to. Being bold has got a lot to do with understanding our strengths and weakness, being ready to accept the consequences if things don’t work out. Therefore being bold for me is a step forward to enhance confidence, self-esteem and thus leadership as a whole.
Sex is being sold everywhere, cheap sex is! Sex is being sold in the movies, although movies like this have a decent run, one cannot refute the fact that sex is only attention grabbing but it can’t really bring in the audience….. sex does not sell. Watching a movie has always been a family affair in our country with multiplexes and malls coming up at every one furlong and each inviting the middle-class to a ‘complete family experience’, sex can only, at best get a particular kind of audience to the theaters.
Many people these days just want to get their 5 minutes to fame. And many other vivacious girls have tried their hands at ‘quickie’ success, each one attempting to get noticed. The drastic measures seem to be a prerequisite. But quick success invariably turns into double-edged sword, where the fear of losing it all constantly eats away at the feeling of exuberance. Women are the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform. Women don’t plead for appreciation, they ask for respect. Today’s world demands independent and fearless women who can fight against those society rules for their own freedom and independence.
Sensuality, lets face it, is a thin border away from sleaze. Sex will predominantly remain on our minds as an accentuating agent for any industry or organization. The mantra to attain success is more often than not, lost in the labyrinth of heat and lust. All are seeking the formula; little do they know that it’s the surplus that is detested; sex included!! Most of the “liberated” Indian women I've seen to date, are actually exactly the opposite — they parrot the west entirely in their thinking, mannerisms, and outlook.
I am curious how “liberated women” became liberated by basically becoming clones or proxies for foreign ideologies. Embrace your ethnicity, your uniqueness and embrace your sexual divinity. Don't let anything tarnish that. What's utmost important is the way that you look at yourself now and how you would like to be looked upon at when you are long gone :)
